Why nobody listens (until someone else says it)
Smart ideas that get ignored happen in every meeting. Here's what's actually going on.
You know that moment when you say something in a meeting and it goes nowhere? No reaction. No follow-up. Maybe a polite nod.
And then ten minutes later, someone else says the exact same thing and suddenly everyone’s taking notes.
It’s not your imagination. That sort of thing happens all the time, and in all different scenarios.
I was recently on a customization call with a mutual insurance company I’m doing a series of workshops for later this month (yes, humor works even in financial services). One of the things I always ask organizers is whether there’s specific messaging they want me to reinforce during the session.
And the answer is almost always the same. It’s not “teach them to tell jokes” or “make them laugh.” It’s some version of “we’ve been telling our people [x] for months and they just aren’t hearing it.”
The Parent (Advice) Trap
I tell the clients that it’s a lot like parenting. Sometimes parents will tell their kid to do something 47 times and they’ll be completely ignored. But then some random YouTuber says it once and suddenly it’s the most important piece of wisdom ever spoken.
It’s the same message but a completely different impact.
Whether you’re a parent or the expert trying to speak up in a meeting, it’s easy to blame the problem on the other person.
Oh, they’re just lazy.
They don’t know what’s good for them.
They don’t respect me because I’m not senior enough, not loud enough, not charismatic enough.
But that’s almost never what’s happening.
Your ideas aren’t landing the way they should because the delivery doesn’t create the moment that makes people pay attention.
That’s why someone can say the same thing in a slightly different way and it’s suddenly brilliant. The idea was good, the thinking was sharp, the delivery sucked.
That’s why I, as an outside speaker, can get a reaction the internal team can’t.
Not because I know more about the org or the people (I almost certainly don’t). But because I wrap the message in a way that gets people to actually hear it. A story. A surprising reframe. A well-timed moment of humor.
It’s not a personality thing
I’m not talking about being the funniest person in the room. I’m talking about understanding that how you say something matters as much as what you say. And that’s not a personality thing. It’s a skill.
I’ve seen engineers, accountants, and data scientists learn to do this. People who would absolutely never describe themselves as “naturally funny.” They didn’t change who they were. They just learned how to make their expertise land.
So the next time you say something and it doesn’t land, don’t assume the idea was bad or the other person hates you. Ask yourself if the delivery gave it a chance.
And if you’ve ever been on the other side of that moment (saying something brilliant that got completely ignored), I want to hear about it. Hit reply or leave a comment and tell me about a time your idea got no reaction... until someone else said it.
Wit regards,
-Andrew
P.S. The Humor Intelligence Report we’ve been working on can help you figure out exactly where your delivery might be falling short (and what to do about it). More on that next week.





Great info and fun read. THANK YOU DREW!!!